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My cousin's Wedding

Just before Christmas 2010, I saw a status update on Facebook... my cousin's status had changed to "in a relationship".

This was news to me, and I thought about "liking" or making a comment.  But that hardly seemed appropriate.

My cousins and I were very close growing up, three sisters and one brother, their spouses and nine cousins living barely blocks apart in North Toronto (another brother, his wife and three children lived a few miles to the south).  I have many fond memories of picnics, of days and evenings spent at their home or at my parents home, special occasions shared, moments that make up a life...  My uncle played tennis, squash and table tennis with me when I was a teenager, and I always felt a closeness to both my aunt and my uncle and Jackie.  Gail, their older daughter was a half generation older than me, and though family, I do not have the memories with her that I had playing with Jackie (who could easily be described as a "tom-boy" in her youth).  Gail has been happily married for years and has three lovely children, all of whom are married now.

After my grandmother died, gradually our families seemed to drift apart, moving in different directions, wrapped up in our own trials and tribulations... 

I would see my aunt and uncle on occasion, and when we did meet, it was as if we our closeness had never wavered.  But the occassions were fewer and further apart.  They now have grandchildren and great-grandchildren, Auntie Cynthia was now the Matriarch of her family.  I guess it is the circle of life...

Years ago, Jackie, decided to make a dramatic change in her life and accepted a position as a teacher in Central Ontario.  She bought a home, made new friends and life moved on.

Though Jackie and I had become Facebook friends a year or two earlier, it had been many years since we had actually seen eachother.  We had even holidayed near her several times, and still not managed to get together...

I picked up the phone and phoned her.  Emotions and memories flooded back as she told me that she had met a man, fallen in love and was getting married.  I was overjoyed for her.  It was eerie the many similar twists and turns our lives had taken.  The closeness that was always there, but perhaps had been buried of late, rose to the surface.  We talked for hours.

She told me they were planning a very intimate wedding at her home on January 1st, 2011 and asked if Helen and I would come.  Without hesitation, I said, of course I would.

We offered to drive her parents, one of my favorite aunts and uncles and spent several hours recounting old memories on the way there.  I did not know anyone but the bride and her parents, but was at once at home and comfortable with them.  Frank, her husband, and his children are very warm and loving people.  Jackie's friends took care of everything and the wedding and reception was wonderful.

When I remember weddings I have been to, it is not the pomp and circumstance that I remember, not the trappings nor the food... it is the love and emotion, it is the friendship and fellowship that stays with me.

I do not have a sister, and have tended to be protective of my cousins.  I want the best for them, and with Frank, Jackie's husband, Jackie now has that.

And my Aunt and Uncle now have that inner peace knowing that their children have found partners who love and adore them.

I did not take many pictures that day, but this one was and is special to me...

Do you want to know what I see?

I see my uncle, circa 1976, fresh off spanking me in tennis yet again, I see my aunt and grandmother cooking us a lunch, and my teenage cousin, a tomboy growing up into such a beautiful woman.  And I see LOVE. Isn't it amazing the emotions and memories a picture can trigger?


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Comment balloon 7 commentsChris Smith • May 10 2011 12:25PM


Nice story Chris, we can feel your emotions as we read it.  Facebook, Twitter and all the other social medias have a place, but you have proved that you still can't beat the phone.  Good Luck!

Posted by Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers, Our Family Wants To Help Your Family! (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage) about 9 years ago

As someone who is approaching a wedding date later this year, I thoroughly loved your story.  How lovely!

Posted by Christine Hooks, Celebrating 25 Years in Real Estate! (Pino Agency) about 9 years ago

Hi Chris, Thank you for an entry t the PhotoBlogger contest and a wonderful trip down memory lane of your earlier years growing up and the wonderful relationship with your cousins . Well done!

Posted by William Johnson, Retired Real Estate Professional (Retired) about 9 years ago

Weddings can usually be wonderful family affairs, which trigger great memories of lives together.  Nice entry in the contest.

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) about 9 years ago

Thank You Al and Peggy.

Congratulations Chris, hope you have a great wedding and a wonderful life with your partner.

Thank You William, I thought about this contest and was not going to enter, but then I was browsing looking for a specific picture and found this, and it kind of "happened"...

Thank You Myrl

Posted by Chris Smith, South Simcoe, Caledon, King, Orangeville Real Esta (Re/Max Chay Realty Inc., Brokerage) about 9 years ago

Hi Chris...That is why so many of us say, if there's ever a fire the first thing we'll try to save are our pictures (after family and pets, of course).

I am happy that you resonded by phone, were invited, and were there for the wedding.


Posted by Kate Elim, Realtor 540-226-1964, Selling Homes & Land a (Dockside Realty) about 9 years ago

Very nice!  I'm glad you all got to reconnect.... I'll bet they have some good memories of you, too!

Posted by Brenda Whitman, Live in Laramie Real Estate, Broker/Co-Owner, Laramie, Wyoming (Live in Laramie Real Estate, Laramie, Wyoming) about 9 years ago